NightRoller (almost) eats his words about the lack of dates and sex in his local area, while reaping rewards from cumulated efforts.
6 dates with 6 different girls in the span of 7 consecutive days! (Caveat: you only see the tip of the spear–overnight successes aren’t quite overnight; this is the culmination of a lot of work on my part to have enough of the good text skills and little enough of the bad to set up this many dates and run them well.) Writing this post is a win, but several posts are still overdue (Krakow, Riga, and Amsterdam) for the long stretches of what felt like little-to-nothing. I don’t want to pretend this is all a rosy picture, but I know from reading several of RedQuest’s relationship updates how interesting and entertaining it can be to read these kinds of success posts about the most interesting of topics1. Tinder and Hinge have finally delivered on their sales promises for once.
- First, +1 from a long-time lead on Tinder in my home area. I first fingered her over a year ago in the back of my car (see the “6” I mentioned near the end of this post, who I’d now see as a 5.5 in looks), back when I just lost my virginity. I’ve come quite a ways, but I’m still corny and cringe a lot of the time and I’m slow/hesitant to escalate. I stutter and overthink, and then overthink about my overthinking, even when in awesome situations where the stars align like the last of these stories (foreshadowing). Got the notch in the one logistical area I’ve carved out some privacy that’s not my car, followed by making lunch and driving her home.
- Next, 1 coffee date on Tuesday with a cutish girl. Not much to say here other than she mentioned she’s not really into physical touch off the bat. Part of me wants the challenge of getting close to her, but looking back, I’m more inclined to drop her. She hasn’t been very forthcoming about her schedule or to set up a second date until a couple weeks from now, but has provided a valid reason for it. We’ll see how it goes.
- 2 coffee dates on Friday; one of them was with a cute girl I vibed quite well with. Nerdy, somewhat quiet/awkward in an endearing way, self-aware, asked me questions more than I asked her, and I calibrated by asking her questions directly instead of assuming she’d volunteer her input. Liked the neck kiss I gave her. Date 2 at hers scheduled for next week. Feels like one of the type of girl who usually likes me who I’m confident I can close, on the upper cusp of my ability to the point I will probably want to keep seeing her regularly if she’s receptive to my advances.
- The other coffee date was very socially awkward and not well-kempt and kind of reminding me of a fish, not blinking much and not really having much tension in the air through our eye contact. Strong smell when she sat down and teeth stains kind of dissuaded me from prioritizing her, though her schedule is free this week; I’ve planned a date with her soon but she’s going to be a low-end FwB if that.
- Finally, stood up by a third girl for a planned Friday “video game date”, which she apologized profusely for missing and heartily agreed on the idea of meeting in person to game instead of the video game date (I was only half feeling the video game date but was curious to give it a shot; I paid and downloaded it because it was one I wanted to play eventuallytm anyway), but still hasn’t gotten back to me on her schedule for2. As I’ve learned from practice and from Playing with Fire’s texting examples, patience usually pays off, so I won’t be pushing her with several messages in a short span of time, and I won’t book calendar details until it’s a confirmed date.
- 1 coffee date Saturday, even cuter than her pics on Tinder and really cool, felt good about her. Date scheduled for hers next week, but need to confirm her address and, if possible, some food preferences. Cute, short, big ass, a pretty normal girl with a bit of an ego, out of my comfort-zone in what I’ve had reference experiences with. She talked about opinionated politics too much. I awkward-bluntly told her we’ve talked about politics a lot on this first date, and “while I find it interesting and would love to continue some other time, I’d like to learn other things about her instead”. Was difficult to turn on the non-platonic sexual tension during this date. I managed to fumble through by talking about some of my interests sexually in a general, albeit non-smooth, fashion (hoping also to screen her out if she was a total prude). She seems like she doesn’t have a lot of actual sex experience, a yellow flag. Proceeding with cautious interest but if she does put out I’m up with an ongoing thing with her
The Part You Came To Read
- +1 with a girl just
yesterday (Sunday) from the Fet app, which is usually dismal or slow (but lets you message girls without having to match first, similar to PoF but actually designed for a phone and actively moderated to remove bots and spammers–I could share some of my strategies for this particularly janky, weird app-that-sometimes-precipitates-gold if there’s interest). In this case I needed out and rolled the nat-20-level positive outcome: awesome sex with a high-libido kinky pagan girl who physically couldn’t have kids and had a thing for breeding.
For reference, this is now my default mindset when it comes to sex (I quoted it once before in this post):
You should be thinking: “I am going to give this girl a great experience, she is going to feel comfortable, and interested, and cared for, I’ll pace where she is at sexually, I’ll read her, I’ll respond to what I see she needs, she’ll feel that response (specifically), we’ll move forward as she is ready… and of course great sex will be part of that. ” Do that… and never go any faster than it takes for her to feel all of that from you.
Nash, but I can’t find which article to link, so here’s an applicable one
That’s what I took along for the ride here, but there wasn’t much to calibrate to. I was horny, she was horny, I showed up and wasn’t weird, things got physical. She’d never met a guy from the Fet app before, somehow.3
- I was so excited after this sexperience that I was typing in runon sentences to some of my mentors that night. She looked decent in her photos, but when I drove to meet her, she looked like a high school wet dream in person, with a fantastic personality and respectable ENM BF to boot4. She eben dressed in a bottomless outfit for me5. She was incredibly hot in bed and a 7 or 8 in looks–hot enough I didn’t bother keeping track. Her makeup (not much, but the things that do it for me) and her bubbly-yet-intelligent, amiable personality made a difference in her presence in photos online vs in person.
- Plus she was a switch. Oh, boy was she a switch. She loved being tossed around or pinned down (something I need to work on more with help from the gym!) only slightly more than she enjoyed turning the tables and doing the same to me.
- I can’t satisfy her every kinky appetite, but because of her BF, I didn’t need to–I did everything I could remember learning or practicing, including light touches, nail rubs, asking whether she likes a certain thing, telling her my weaknesses, feeling the thrill like a rollercoaster when she sprung up from my grasp and pinned me down, literally wrestling at one point6 when the idea of CNC came up, talking dirty to her, and many other things.
- I tried new things I hadn’t before. She’s far more experienced than me, with over a decade to my >1 year having sex, so I took the chance to learn things while giving her as much pleasure as I can. She mentioned to me
today the following day that she was thinking about Sunday night all day long. Honestly, it was one of the best experiences I’ve had in the bedroom of two switches having the grandest time turning each other on, rivaling even the memorable times I had with the Nerdy Nympho and the Seductress Girl.
This post doesn’t really capture how awesome it felt in the moment, having sex with an active girl instead of a shy one scared of her sexuality7.
“Ohmygoodness, am I even alive right now? I hope she’s not judging me for not knowing what to do now that I have her pinned by the neck. Holy shit her tits are so hot. Wow her body just makes me want to gobble her up somehow. I want to save this memory into a literal video format and replay it at will. This is life lived to the fullest. Mmm I love when she moves her lips like that. Oh, she just grabbed my neck and got on top! What’s going to happen next! Will I let her stay up her long, or wrestle her back down!? Why isn’t sex a sport–if sometimes done casually, there should be competitive! Oh my gosh I’m so lucky to be having sex with this inspiring sexy girl whose boyfriend is literally just arriving home and consents to her playing like this. I love teasing these tits, I wonder if she wants me to twist/suck harder.”
Yes, this is your window into NightRoller’s ape mind while in the middle of sex. I love sex, and now even my conservative family has begun to notice in my mannerisms and habits.
- With a breeding kink and inablity to have any (more) kids8, so she invited me to cum inside her. (Having already ensured we’re both disease free and recently tested over text) I did inside her, twice. Now I worry if I’ll be able to come using condoms again. She had 3-89 orgasms, over two rounds of sex, in the first time we met. I want to invest in one of those special pills because for the second round, we kept having to give my rod extra attention to make it usably firm. That gave me more practice at giving orders like “suck my cock” when she reminded me that she liked the assertiveness.
- Several times she mentioned how she thought I was nerdy-cute, much cuter in person than my photos online, and sweet (and other compliments that my crumbling past insecurity managed to make me forget already). The kicker was the 2 times she said she was surprised I’m still single, which bodes well for my future dating prospects if a confident girl10 I find this attractive is fucking me and asking me why I’m not in a relationship yet. #eligiblebachelor
- I have a ways to go when it comes to being assertive/leading in bed/throwing the girl around, but this girl was patient and wouldn’t judge me as I fumbled as long as I was doing enough right for the both of us. Kind of reminded me of some of the stories RedQuest had with Peaches on his blog. I also want to become even more muscular to better lay her out in bed for both our delight and pleasure >:)
- From YouTube videos by Andy/KillYourInnerLoser, I had heard that brattiness is more of a playful kind of dynamic, with teasing, and I had never experienced that in an actual sex session before I did in this one. Now I know what real brattiness can be like, and as far as teasing and playful brattiness (not insulting or rude per se, tone of voice conveys the subtext) goes, I LOVE IT. This may be the submissive side of me coming out, but I loved the teasing and wanted more and more (until she got bored and I took control accordingly).
- I plan to meet her again eventually, but after sex this good sleep is alluring. Bit of a long drive11 but she made it well worth the time and effort. Her BF was pretty cool too as far as dudes go12. I may decide to get into swinging and MFMs at this rate!
Quick Recap
That’s 6 dates in 7 days, 2 of which turned into sex. And I live in the middle of NOWHERE! 30 minutes to the nearest small city, 20 to the nearest town, 15 to the nearest “village” (as Europeans would call it).
I’m very lucky this week, and better than usual at capitalizing on luck when it appears. That is, I tend to see it as getting lucky, but where putting in positive effort makes me lucky more of the time or tips the odds of a great date with a low flake rate even higher.
It’s not pure luck, that’s for sure. But having this much success in a single week in this area is lucky, with sub-par dating apps to thank (could it be that the pictures I had taken in Europe, specifically Krakow [link when I eventually write that post], are helping put me at the top of guys in my area?).
This is an example of abundance, and even a couple days since having experienced that fantastic sexcapade I notice a nonchalance boost in my interactions with women. It feels like I don’t mind if most or all of these semi-decent leads disappear, though I’ll continue with my current “bumfuck-nowhere” system to cultivate them. I’m honestly aiming for a longer-term (but at least partly open) relationship, get experience, beat my old record of 5-6 weeks. And for the foreseeable future (the next 2 weeks), it looks like my schedule will be relatively full of cute girls. From a certain point of view, I’m living a fantasy13.
Keep Rolling,
– NightRoller
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