Learn from RedQuest Pt. 2: Lessons I’ve learned

RedQuest has said he’s leaving the game, and here I write about this man’s influence on me. Continued from this post, and continued further here.

Some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned:

There’s dozens, and maybe hundreds, of lessons that Red Quest articles (and the many links to other sources found within them) impart, but many are situationally applicable—I’ll be talking with an offline daygamer or nightgamer friend, and he’ll say something or I’ll say something and then the title or essence of a post of RQ’s will come to mind. (As I’m writing this, that very situation happened last night: a good-looking offline regular daygamer with me in Krakow was talking about how he likes to excite girls, which prompted me to think of BDSM skills for players.)

Some titles are paraphrased, some are exact articles. I could go into why all of these lessons have become so transformational for me, but with the goal again of not publishing my first novel through this thank-you post, I’ll only note a few of them and let the rest stand on their merits themselves:

• Marriage is a bad idea for most guys in modern (U.S.) society
• You only see the tip of the spear
• Sugar (and diet in general) will strongly direct your short- and long-term quality of life
• Lifting is not just for the gym bros
• The Red Pill gets some things right, some things wrong, and it is a tool with limitations (glad I came across RQ before any real explanations of the Red Pill, so I could recognize and avoid some of its pitfalls and dogma)
• For short-term (or “adventure”) sex, women want excitement and emotion
• Women actually want and (can) enjoy sex
• BDSM is a valuable skill to give women better sex
• Sex skills are important as a player if you want more than one-night stands
• Women don’t think other women can be responsible for their adult decisions
• Most guys don’t talk beyond the basics level of game
• Winning creates structural advantages that help you win further
• Play the long-game, consider different time frames (I’ve gone from thinking in the short-term (a week or two) only to thinking in terms of half-years, and soon to balancing short-term plans and making 5 year and 10 year estimate plans to build the life I want by the time I reach my 30’s)
• There’s a lot of experienced guys out there to learn from (and it’s important not to dogmatically follow one or another, but to take the best parts of each)
• Video games (and other consumption media) are a waste of your most valuable resource: time
• First be cool, then evangelize whatever the thing is (Video games and other potential vices can be okay in moderation, if you’re already cool, fit, getting laid, etc.)
• Read more books
• Live more in real life than you do on the internet
• Don’t believe everything you read on the internet
• Words are cheap, action is value
• Words are cheap, look at a girl’s actions prior to believing her words about “what she wants”
• Your experience has value
• Your life can be enjoyable if you choose to make it so instead of following what everyone else tells you to do, or being an average guy
• Your job can augment your lifestyle for purposes of getting laid—e.g. bartending
• Don’t be broke if you can avoid it
• Compound interest still works today, save money
• Being fit helps in sex clubs/parties
• Sex clubs and sex parties are an undervalued structure you can use to leverage girls to meet more girls, and often help with retention
• Girls in real life are nicer than what you see on the internet
• Bringing girls is a form of value in some places
• Women are given their value, men earn their value
• Online dating is difficult, but if you do it, you need to take good pictures
• The long-term game for meeting girls (again) in the bedroom should not be discounted
• Boredom = death
• Don’t ask for something without offering value in exchange; there’s no free lunch
• Learn from others; teach others
• Have empathy for girls
• Don’t be so scared of being locked down that you don’t let yourself get more serious with a good candidate you would otherwise enjoy being with

I came up with this list in one sitting. I’ll probably think of more later, but even this list of things I misunderstood or did not know before, that I learned specifically from Red Quest through his posts (whether he stated them explicitly as the point of a post or in the flow of explanation). If there was any doubt of the value of RedQuest’s experience and website, at least for this NightRoller guy writing, let it be put to death here.

RedQuest has also done some impressive things here for a hobby blogger who never started official coaching, which is in the next post.