Follow RedQuest’s Example Pt. 3 – Expand Your Game Network

RedQuest has said he’s leaving the game, and here I write about this man’s influence on me. Continued from here and here.

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RedQuest has done some impressive things here for a hobby blogger who never started official coaching (but recommends it for guys getting into the game). Here’s some of the highlights:

He’s written a free PDF on SEX CLUBS, NON-MONOGAMY, AND GAME that’s about 100 pages long. It’s mostly too advanced or for different scenarios than what I can encounter, but it helped me to enjoy, rather than panic at, my first sex club experience in Berlin.

He’s coached several guys in person–even recently–and helped many more of us online. Most of the advice he gave me in comments or in private DMs points out a blind spot of mine or reminds me of the applicable basics, as many good coaches do.

He inspired me to write my blog too, and include links to outside sources as applicable. I’ve always thought he did so to advance the conversation, help readers further, and show he’s not just bullshitting, so I decided to do the same. I might be part right.

RedQuest inspired me to lose my virginity (at that point I was on the right path, but his book, THE GOOD GIRL, was an enjoyable read and demonstrated in a visceral way how “leading” is implemented through the course of a relationship from first contact to leading in sex clubs).

Networks in Game

As a guy who focused around building a network, RedQuest introduced me to many other people in this space, including:

• Andy from KillYourInnerLoser, who gave me a framework to start moving forward as a beginner and a more private forum to come together with others on, as well as inspiration for how I want my ideal relationship to look like and more empathy with girls, and the knowledge “I can do it too” and the challenge to make that knowledge into a belief through action.
• RedPillDad, whose site has now gone private, but coached me and helped encourage the beginning of my travels into game.
• Krauser, who is too intense and seems a bit too unempathetic and crass (as RQ says, “a flaming, incredible racist) for me, but has inspired many with information such as this awesome article about the practical parts of writing your player blog.
• DaysOfGame (Nash), who inspired me as a fellow man who loves Japan and Japanese girls, as well as being a more romantic guy (but still retaining a “dangerous” sexual edge) who’s done far more cold approach than I.
• XBTUSD – a few cool posts, but his blog is down.
• Caleb Jones, via Andy (KYIL), who’s a devisive figure on both dating and business and RQ isn’t a fan of, but who I did pick up a few useful things from as I went through a phase of following him.
• MaddMonk, a fellow learner and blogger.
• GoodLookingLoser, whose blog has aged but still has some useful basics and encouragement, if you can find an archive of the site somewhere.
• Joe the photographer, indirectly through the KYIL forums, for my first decent pictures.
• Richard Hanania, who has some connections to the game but focuses more on politics and society in a more reality-based way than most republicans or democrats or modern media seem to.
• Aella, who is one of the most openminded , experienced, and empathetic female figures I know online.
• Mr. Money Mustache, who revealed to me it’s really up to me how much money I save and how much financial freedom I develop.
• Many other guys on the KYIL forums, both in person and online.

Guys who recognize the power of aiming to learn truth, skeptically reading new things that may contradict your views and comparing what they say to reality, and not dogmatically following one or two people’s ideas without reservation, would do well to cultivate a diverse list of inspirations to their knowledge and worldview, some of whom will disagree on various topics. Not only that, but networks have power–encourage others, and sometimes receive encouragement in turn. Create value. Cite your sources. Guys will respect that you’re trying, if nothing else, but building a network is so much more than that. Take inspiration from RedQuest on this.

Thank you RedQuest. You’ve changed my life and kept me from bitter paths, or living life as a sheeple, or living the life my parents planned for me (graduate college, get a corporate/government job, work 10-20 years until some girl takes pity on me and marries for the social acceptance of being with a “gentleman” with a good job, then eventually losing half of my savings in a divorce and wondering why porn was always better than the sex I had with her).

Sex is awesome. RedQuest, while you may leave the game, your legacy here, on and off the internet, will live on. With this post series, I celebrate you and your contributions to the game (and men’s lives).