I’m officially moved in and getting settled, but, not one to lose the momentum (especially during exam week: girls love to blow off their gender studies exams and strut around town looking pretty), I planned a few days this week to go out at night.
Here’s my notes:
Field Reports
My goals this week: being out for >1.5 hours, making 10 approaches of people each night.
4/30/24 Tuesday social
A good starter night. I went out, I was social, I had fun, I hit on a hot girl I was intimidated by—it was great. Also learned some dance stuff and got some info from people about venues and fashion.
In total, at a minimum, talked to 21 people within the venue. Was social outside of it too, all day whenever I got the chance. Was in the venue for ~3.5 hours.
I think I was neutral wrt social vibe, I wasn’t negative per se, and I did give positive vibes some of the time, but a lot of people didn’t know how to place me as friend or foe.
I forget how long I planned to (just go out and get comfortable being in the bar scene and talking to people) in my goals but it seems like I should do this at least 3-4 weeks and make it a habit before setting any further goals1.
Seemed like the venue itself had a lot of regulars this night, a few every-so-ofteners, and a handful of once-offs. Better for long-term community building with a few pointed shots taken, for this venue on this day of the week. Good info.
5/2/25 Thurs
Total of 18 approaches of some type, one of which was spoken with intent.
Noticed I was afraid of changing plans to switch to obviously popular bars (which I could see were crowded and had lines outside) when I was looking for a certain bar I heard was good on this night.
Tested out several bars and found them to be not so great. Useful to know. I’ll concentrate effort on the better ones.
5/4/24 Sat
Total: 14 interactions, 2 of which were intent-approaches
Super loud, super smokey, need to bring earplugs next time. Voice sore too, but that’s expected in a loud venue.
Also found I can ride my bike to the popular college bar street to zip over quick instead of a vibe-killer walk or a gas-wasting drive.
There was no line at 10:10, but when I left at 10:40 the line was lined up.
I didn’t stay as long as intended. In the future, need to stay out for until 10 approaches and 1.5 hours passed, to get used to the environment and keep trying. (Earplugs and getting comfortable with the vibe will help.)
Despite the venue being very packed, today I faced three obstacles: one, I was really tired because I had a (not particularly hot) girl over for sex earlier in the day, and she was bouncing off the walls with caffeine which was exhausting. Two, I didn’t really look around to actually see what was going on, like I wasn’t allowed to look or something. Partly this was based on the fear that I’d be judged as creepy for looking around. Three: I saw a lot of hot girls and cool guys out, BUT I couldn’t think of anything to say that was related to the context and interesting, so I meandered around the bar and mingled with a few groups. I wasn’t sure what to do between approaches of people either, felt like a weirdo who didn’t belong. Mostly targeted people who I could think to compliment something that stood out about them, or people who stood out socially, not people who were enjoying the vibe.
I’ve got a lot of room for growth.
Other Updates
This week, I also did some impromptu daygame (not counted), and lots of people-watching and weaseling on girls who were totally my type. I’ll count it as a gain because I did make 1 or 2 actual approaches and kickstarted the habit of being out, social, giving compliments and starting conversations.
Being in the city feels utterly surreal compared to where I was living before. For comparison: where I lived before, if I saw 1-3 girls of decent attractiveness (what in some spheres some might call 7s or 8s), it felt like a lucky break; here and now, I walk down the street and happen to see a dozen girls I’d be happy getting intimate with in a mere half hour, even less if I walk near campus. I picked good logistics for where I live and it’s paying dividends with supply. Now to delve (wink wink) into my inner wolf to increase demand.
The college girls will largely leave soon, which makes it a great time to settle into the city, work on my body, and build my social circles & skills2. Moving is a handy catalyst for habit change if used sparingly.
Took me 2-3 years to (mostly) solve money and location logistics. Now the rubber hits the road. Looking forward to next week. Things will get hard, but I won’t be discouraged by my lack of ability.
While some enter the game more fully, others look toward their exit of the game…
- Or testing ideas I overhear on Twitter ↩︎
- In fact, over the past week I checked out a couple kink groups, which also seem like a social starter point if I can be the fun cool guy of the group (no offense to participants there, but some of them help set the bar lower) ↩︎
NightRoller Game 
