End-of-2022 Update (+LR log – 16 lays in my first calendar year)

The Nerdy Nympho was my 8th notch, and since then, I’ve had 8 more new lays, bringing my count to 16, all in 2022 since I lost my virginity in May.

I always try but fail to keep these short. Skim or read at your leisure to learn what this newbie has done in his first year since taking that first huge step.

Here’s a list of my notches as they sequentially happened, because I’ve been “too busy” to write about half of these in detail as they happened, and I haven’t compiled it anywhere else. I worry about being dehumanizing though, so I will probably not post lists like this in the future, aiming to highlight specific instances instead and keeping count separately.

1. The lay in May that broke my virginity happened on my parents’ living room carpet. They would definitely not be pleased to hear of it, but it took them until the end of the year to realize that there was something different about me. This particular girl liked that I seemed dominant, but back then I had only the facade online.
2. My second lay happened while traveling in Portland, of all places. Online. This was my first implementation of strip-cards (specifically, Exploding Kittens).
3. My third girl was the Japanese GF. She was much more attractive than I felt like at the time, but when I think about it our SMV wasn’t that far apart. She was a part-time model and grad student who was missing the attention-heavy cute-guy-saturated environment of her undergraduate career, I was a handsome guy who got into the one of the best graduate universities in her country on some off-chance. This definitely planted the seed to question my beliefs about whether I could be in a relationship with a girl I found attractive. Not bad for my first real girlfriend, and one which lasted 4-5 weeks in all with some fun and cute dates (and sex, of course).
4. A one-off girl I found online while in Japan. First experience of realizing how fat a girl could be with photos that didn’t show it overtly.
5. When I came back to the U.S. and the college semester started again, laid a girl I’d dry-humped before. She wasn’t attractive for me to see again, but I wanted to help her change her very negative mindsets, and in the process I just ended up falling into her expectation that “all men will cheat”. Frustrated me.
6. A girl I call “Miss Plump Virgin“, who had a lot of hangups and strange habits. With hindsight, she was a bad kisser and I was bad at saying so. Took a few dates to see her in bed, but did see her a few times after.
7. A fat biter-kisser who looked much worse than her photos.
8. Nerdy Nympho, who I once thought of as the pinnacle of beauty and sexual validation, but who I only saw twice (I did see her a second time after that lay report, but hadn’t posted it anywhere), and who I now would pin as my 7–definitely a yes to have sex with, but some noticeable flaws. On our second sexual excursion, we had one of the most hilarious moments I’ve ever had in bed: I was tickling her armpits, she was squirming and trying to get me to knock it off, then I doubled down and pressed harder and she orgasmed from THAT, so “gave her an armpitgasm” is going in my trophy case and will be a story to tell future grandkids. She is the most sensitive girl I’ve ever met and it’s super-ego validating, she even told me she masturbated while thinking of me three times since we’d met the first time, so it’s sad to me that she said she doesn’t want to see me anymore. I did predict correctly she had a high likelihood of coming back to me after the first time, however.
9. The rest of these haven’t been logged here properly, so the ones worth detailing I’ll put a bit longer descriptions. After a long period of getting poor sleep and trying to balance a job on top of my schoolwork and SMV-increasing activities, got this lay of another fat girl from online.
10. Drove to see a girl who was bald, disorganized, on government aid, and relatively ugly but cuddly on my way back to university from Thanksgiving. Don’t plan to see her again, far less cute or pretty than her Badoo dating app photos.
11. On the same day, got a blowjob from a pregnant girl met on Skout and felt her up. Later got the full lay too (last lay of 2022 in fact). Not a good talker, would rather watch movies/tv. Probably only got pregnant from guys interested in her for her body, because she doesn’t really seem to provide much else.
12. Knocked a big item off my sexual bucket list when a cute OnlyFans girl met up with me. Pretty curious that she wasn’t a fan of kissing but loved sex. She was from Hily, an app I doubted could lead to any sort of solid leads but found some success with decent photos and grinding through. I’m tempted to make a guide on how to use some of these “low-quality” (in my mind) apps. She ghosted me afterwards, however; a shame, I did want to see her again and it seemed like she had fun. She even confirmed on me for the date.
13. A chunky high school girl I matched with on Bumble apparently showed my picture to her friend, who thought I was hot–then one night during finals week (in December) when I was cram-working on a long research essay due at midnight (spoiler: I didn’t finish at midnight, and did get an A), got a text from her about wanting to hang out because they were tipsy and horny. A few logistics later, they both came over and gave me my first threesome. The fat girl was bigger than her pictures looked (naturally), and was very much the “hugs, cuddles, kissing, and comfort” kind of girl.
14. The other girl was a very pleasant surprise. I wrote in my notes: “The skinny one is hot as hell, small but perky tits and a perfect ass.” She was also apparently cheating on a more provider-type boyfriend or husband who was away in the military… a worthwhile note and yet another point for the Red Pill basics. Blonde, thin, with a cute butt, some sass, and a little reservation about me, she joined her friend in complimenting me once she came around and sobered up a little; according to them, I “was a keeper” and “was a good one” and “can we keep him?” and “you’re so knowledgeable about this sex stuff” and all that. Apparently, they’d both done threesomes with guys before, and when the thin girl (the girl I wanted to see more of tbh) apparently didn’t like me (I learned this over text after overcoming a ghost from the chubby girl, the only girl whose contact I had), it soiled potential of seeing them both in the future. It was sad to know my first threesome would be a one-off thing, but I was glad for KYIL Andy’s materials on threesomes so I didn’t make a big deal about it or get reactive and could lead the threesome to happen. Anyway, in this case, I was just a meat rod for the girls’ pleasure, which showed a developing pattern: most of the girls I was into would leave after a time or two.
15. This 15th gal was a thin, hot, edgy (tattoos, fishnets, ripped jeans, body suits, submissive, cute earrings) post-goth lay in the back of my car. It was a pretty “typical” lay; we met for coffee, I picked her up and drove to the shop, then it was closed so we stopped at a couple antique stores. I kissed her three times in the second one when we (finally!) reached a quiet, private-enough place without others around, then told her “we should stop or I don’t know if I’ll be able to pull away.” Corny, but smooth enough, and she later told me that she thought I was very smooth. After that venue 2, we looked to hit a third antiques shop (she was into them) but no dice, so we headed back to my car, I suggested we chat for a bit in the back seat, then it got progressively, slowly more intimate and sexual until we were kissing again, then my hands were exploring her, then we took off our clothes one by one as I made suggestions (seems like this slow method of saying “Hmm, I think we should take our shirts off” or “Do you want to take X off?” or if one of us has 1 more thing off than the other, saying “I’m a fan of equality, take off your/I’ll take off my Y too” meets little resistance). We were in a public parking lot right across from a police station, and only the back windows were semitinted, so at first we were naked and I was fingering her for a long while in full daylight; then it reached dusk and I pulled out a condom from my bag (I wasn’t expecting to go all the way until we got back to her place, because she did hesitate and worry about taking pants off because of fears that people could see us). After I’d come in her already, she was telling me very submissively, “you can do anything you want with me.” Young, hot, tight; she could actually use more meat on her bones if anything, but she said she’s working on it (and has a condition which makes it difficult for her to do so). She looks kind of nerdy with glasses, but feels like a solid 5.5-6.5 to me, and given she feels like relationship-vibes to me, I’m open to making a few more trips up to my parents’ some weekends to see her and do cute date stuff plus sex. I’m excited to see her again in this new year, especially if I can do a photoshoot with her (you could say I’ve been inspired by Andy and Nash).
16. Another fat girl, and we also had sex in my car. She had a booty, and ironically had a bodycount higher than mine (Taylor Swift’s Blank Space plays–she had a literal list on her phone of the names, which is part of what inspired this after she showed herself typing my name as #20-something). Saw her only 2 days after the Submissive Antiques Girl (#15), and so I didn’t last very long (only 2 10-second instances of going fast with a 30 second break in-between—see RollerCoaster Sex). (I then fully laid girl #11 the next day, bringing my record to 3 separate sexual encounters in 4 days). Back to #16, she was very hung up on her ex husband and had a lot going wrong in her life. I had to drive even farther for her (1 hour) than the previous girl, so I canceled our cuddling plans for the following week.

I set a goal back in August to have 10 more lays before January started after the 5th girl, a goal I thought back then would be impossible. But even with terrible logistics at my parents, I managed to bring surpass that goal and have a few experiences I really enjoyed besides the obvious fun of having my meat wand jerked off in the middle of some girl’s meat taco.

RPD has been telling me recently (and I completely agree) that I need to work on the quality of the girls I’m seeing, as well as improving my in-person game. See my notes on future goals. Of the girls I’ve seen so far, I am shooting to make girls on the level of #3, #8, #12, #14, and #15 to be my baseline-level lay.

Got really close without a full notch a couple times, like between #14 and #15 I had a 24-hour date with a girl who was impressed with me, but friendzoned me after I took her to a dance and encouraged her to dance with some of my more skilled and older friends (after I taught her some of the basic steps). She apparently hit up one of my friends, who told me, but she wasn’t much of a talker (boring life with few friends up to this point) and we were both uninterested in more than casual with her (I’d wished him the best if he wanted to try). She spurned all my advances despite sleeping in the same bed and cuddling me (spooning, but without our arms around each other… that was very arousing and I’m surprised she didn’t mention it… her ass and tits were tantalizing), then continued texting me like a friend a few days after, until eventually sending a long “let’s be friends” text (I’d already told her around the end of our date that I’d noticed she didn’t seem to be into me, but it took her some time and emotional distance to realize the same for herself). This was right before I left university. I learned several things there, including “don’t bring a girl you haven’t f*cked to a party with cool friends” and “listen to a girl’s actions more than her words”. Besides the inadvertent cuddling at night, she did give me 4 token kisses when I mentioned kissing was important to me, but it was definitely the “giving these because I can give this up to keep your attention” type of kiss and not hot, passionate makeout kisses. She’d only had long-term relationships before this, so when I went far out of my way to drive her and showed heavy BF signs, I should have been less surprised. May reconnect with her in the future; as a friend, or–hopefully–more.

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Some good things learned over the past year (not all-encompassing, but what I can think of off the top of my head):

• How to follow a program at the gym and log my progress
• How to evaluate whether a job is serving me, and quit it if not
• How to log self-improvement progress daily in a public log
• How to log eating habits (when I’m not lazy and just estimating for the whole day) with MyFitnessPal
• How to make a diet plan
• How to go on a date and do more than just platonic interview stuff
• How to escalate on a girl from meeting at the door to cuddling post-“exercise”
• How to find girls online when banned on Tinder
• How to book a professional photo shoot
• How to buy clothes that fit and look good, again thanks to Joe my photographer
• How to Swing Dance, which has led to one of my best warm lead experiences
• How to run half an hour continuously, something I could not do before
• How to run a (suboptimal but whole-funnel) system via online to get laid. [link to post when written]
• How to use coaching to boost progress and build connections in this space

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Some goals for the new year:

• Improve in-person game:
  • Go out and practice nightgame
  • Do speeddates on the PlayingWithFire channel (already tried my hand at one and bombed, it humbled me and showed me how far I have yet to go)
  • Set up fewer direct-to-dorm dates and instead try more coffee dates, get to know girls, practice screening and roleplaying
• Improve online game results:
  • Build a system to know how to sure-fire get back on Tinder after being banned
  • Learn how to swipe/use the apps more effectively/efficiently and avoid letting myself swipe on girls likely to be less than “yes, she’s cute and I would definitely want to lay her if given the opportunity”
• Get in better shape, by implementing a more effective diet plan and continuing to consistently improve in the gym (and get more sleep)
• Work on building connections to get a solid job in a related field, a topic I’ve been talking with my coach RPD about (who says you can only talk about game with your game coach?)
• Build my own business, or fail for the first time by trying
• Improve piano and dance skills (see my most recent post on my KYIL log to see my 365 project to do this)
• Build/find a community of like-minded men who I can game with, discuss girls/self-improvement with, and encourage/be encouraged by
• Find a housing situation that isn’t on campus and isn’t in my parents’ attic

This has been an amazing year, my friends. I’ve learned a lot and joined the circle of men making visible improvement in their lives.

If you’re just beginning and don’t think the same is possible for you, reach out. I’ll be able to point you in the right direction, or to someone who can.

Keep rolling,

-NightRoller